Showing posts with label voice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label voice. Show all posts

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Some People Just Don't Understand!

     Some people just don't understand!  Remember DJ Jazzy Jeff and The Fresh Prince's "Parent Just Don't Understand"?  In the song from 1988, Will (The Fresh Prince) talks about how parents are all the same, all across the land...they just don't understand their kids. He goes on and on about how his mom made, in his opinion bad choices about the style of clothes and many other things parents and their children did not agree on.  




     This post isn't about parents misunderstanding their children or vice versa.  Like the subject states, "Some People Just Don't Understand".  As we all are pretty much aware, the very arrogant Kanye West went on a rant at one of his recent concerts and basically demanded that everyone in the audience stand in his honor.  He apparently became offended when some patrons did NOT stand, not because they didn't want to but because they couldn't!  This fact had to be verified by his (Kanye's) handlers.  Shameful!  

     No national outrage of this man's ignorance.  This story didn't make it's rounds on the evening news.  However, parents of children with disabilities and adults living with disabilities were very much outraged!  I know I was and still am!  My daughter loves music and I know, if she could she would be dancing and singing to her favorite tunes!  The actions Kanye showed at his concert and the blatant arrogance he showed after the fact is often expressed by many, in more subtle ways.  So many people say things that shows that they have no full understanding of what it is like to live with a disability or to care for a person with one.  

     When you factor that in, it is, as a presenter said at a conference I recently attended, ignorance.  Ignorance is when there is a lack of knowledge.  We have all been ignorant to many things in life.  You have no knowledge of something until you learn about it.  So, why was Kanye still ignorant on the entire audience standing?  That was both ignorance and arrogance.  What do you call it when you're in church(es) and you hear things like "you're not blessed" or "if the Lord's done anything, you should stand..."?  I'm not sure, and I don't care what the world thinks the Lord has or hasn't done for me.  I will continue to sit with and beside my daughter and many others that cannot stand in the face of  those that just don't understand or just don't care!

     So, Kanye and preachers and church folk around the world, the little music lover in the picture below, isn't able to stand on her own right now, she is beyond blessed and loved.  Her mom (me) is her biggest fan and number one supporter...I sit with her and stand for her and I am a voice for her! 


"Momma's daughter :))



Tuesday, March 18, 2014

A Little Determination...

These pictures are the proof that a little advocacy and determination goes a really long way!!!

It is also a reminder to MYSELF to never give up, stay visible, vocal and focused!  I am an advocate for my child and others living with disabilities!

April 27, 2013
March 18, 2014
Comparative photo





More to come...

Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Changes

     I know it has been a while now, since I've posted any updates.  I've been so very busy, so much has taken place.  Kerstin has started middle school!! I still can not believe it.  We are also much closer to Kerstin's last day of school before her surgery.  Now, to get caught up on things, I will back up to August 19, 2013, the first day of school.

     Nothing much has taken place since I visited the school for her IEP meeting back in the Spring.  I never got a response to my email back in January about my concerns for accessibility issues at the school either.  The email was addressed to the special ed coordinator, the human resources manager, Kerstin's former school's principal and the superintendent.  Odd group of recipients to talk about school accessibility, I  know, but I was originally called into a meeting with the coordinator and HR, about ME and not about Kerstin and definitely not about placement.  I later emailed this group to address them calling me to a meeting with two people originally and I got blindsided and the meeting was with four, and my employment was the least talked about.  Long story short, no one responded to my email from January 23, 2013 until September 12, 2013!  Great communication, I know!

     First day of school.  I discover there is NO accessible parking at the new school, no signs saying that an accessible entrance is here,  the bumpy, extremely broken sidewalk has not been fixed and this former "science lab" in which Kerstin has to travel through several times a day is still a cluttered, smelly mess!! The only progress,  a cement ramp has been installed, just outside the cafeteria.  Gee, thanks!  I guess my dauhgter was really expected to stay in this "self-contained" classroom, secluded from her peers and the rest of the school?!  No thanks!  No one else notices this, no other parent has a problem with this?  No school board big wigs will address my email from January?  What's going to be done about this?  The following letter sent to the editor of the local paper:
The Forgotten Student(s)

            Dear Editor:
I am the proud parent of Kerstin, a determined eleven year old who loves attending school with the friends she has known since Head Start. Kerstin was diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy at six months of age. She has since been diagnosed with Scoliosis and Epilepsy. As her mother, I am steadfast in my belief that children with Special Needs should not be cast away like an eye sore or an embarrassment. In 2005, I quit my job as a Student Enrollment Specialist at the Montgomery Job Corps Center so that I could attend school with my daughter. Yes, since Kerstin was in Head Start, I have gone to school with her every day! We have had many trials along the way. We have encountered some very willing teachers and administrators and some very unwilling ones as well. Her classmates have proven to be the most helpful. I believe that the willingness and understanding exhibited by her classmates is the result of Kerstin being included in general education settings.
Kerstin’s transition to middle school is presenting a number of challenges, though. Kerstin is very observant and immediately noticed the differences in her environment at Hayneville Middle as compared to Jackson-Steele. Getting to the self-contained classroom where Kerstin receives one-on-one services is a concern. The classroom is not only in a basement-like area of the school, but also at the back of the building. Kerstin has to literally circle the building in order to gain access to the main floor of the school where she has a number of classes. The sidewalk is so bumpy and in need repair that it is difficult to navigate in her wheelchair. When she becomes discouraged, I try to make her smile by singing an old R&B song, “Bump, Bump, Bump”.  I try to not become discouraged myself. If it rains, unlike her peers without a disability, Kerstin has no way to get to the main floor as the sidewalk is not covered. Her peers can take the stairs inside the school and Kerstin is literally left outside in the rain. Also, there are no wheelchair accessible parking spaces at Hayneville Middle School.
The Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) includes two fundamental requirements for children with disabilities: the child will receive a free appropriate public education (FAPE) in the least restrictive environment (LRE). For me, that means that Kerstin has a right to attend school in a setting with her peers who do not have disabilities. It is my opinion that a child with a disability should have social interactions with their peers regardless of ability.  And as mandated by the American with Disabilities Act (ADA), she should have wheelchair accessible parking and wheelchair accessible entrances to the building. According to Advocacy for Inclusion, Inc., an inclusive educational environment builds confidence and self-esteem for children with disabilities while giving the child with a disability a sense of belonging and achievement.  Furthermore, inclusive education promotes social growth, awareness and acceptance for all members of the community. Children without disabilities become more aware and most of all, more respectful of the challenges that persons with disabilities face.  Inclusiveness promotes the fact that people are people regardless of ability.
Our transition to middle school, while challenging, is also coincidentally occurring during a pivotal time in our country’s history—the 50th anniversary of many of the historic moments of the Civil Rights Movement. Fifty years ago, America witnessed some to the most crucial demonstrations in the fight for human dignity—the Birmingham Children’s Crusade, George Wallace’s Stand in the Schoolhouse Door, and the March on Washington to name a few. I have committed my life to fighting for my daughters human and civil rights even if it means that I have to fight a modern day George Wallace or Bull Connor who presents him/herself in the form of a teacher, administrator, or superintendent. I refuse to let anyone “stand in the schoolhouse door” and block her access to the education she so rightly deserves. I will ensure that my child “receives the best education possible” and that she becomes a “responsible citizen, effective communicator, life-long learner, and “fierce competitor on the economic world stage”? I WILL speak up! I am my child’s voice!  She will NOT be The Forgotten Student!

Respectfully submitted by:
Mattisa Moorer
Parent of Kerstin Sanders
Lowndes County Public School student
Italicized taken from Lowndes County Public Schools Mission Statement

September  2013

   
     Did not think I would have to take these measures.  I hope all parents of children with special needs will realize that there are other steps available for you.  You have rights, Know them!  You have a voice,  Speak up!  Needless to say, contacting the newspaper, has gotten the ball rolling on things that should have been done years ago, and NOT just for Kerstin.  It should be done for all students and others with accessibility needs!  I will never give up, I'm an advocate for life!

     The newspaper articles are here and the first one here (scroll all the way to the bottom)


Some progress made, still so much to come!
Before:


After some work...


So, in the midst of preparing, mentally, for my daughter's surgery, I HAVE to be a voice, can't sit idly by and let this continue to go on!  You know there's more to come...